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Inside: 101 encouraging words for kids! Words can build kids up, and just as easily tear them down. Use this list to foster confidence and support! This post includes a FREE poster!
If you’ve seen The Help, you’ll likely remember the inspiring words the maid said over and over to the sweet little girl, “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”
These loving words of encouragement by the maid/nanny was an attempt to reverse and prevent the psychological damage caused by being constantly berated by her socialite mother.
Your kids are an empty bucket. You choose what you fill them up with.
Words can pump kids up, and they can just as easily deflate them, which is why finding positive things to say to your child matters.
What do you want to fill their bucket with?
Tell a child they are bad, and they will be bad. Tell a child they are good and they will be good.
By brainstorming some encouraging words for kids or positive phrases to say to your child, you can start to fill that bucket with love, kindness, positivity, and confidence.
The evidence is crystal clear that when kids feel warmth and affection from their parents, this has a life-long impact on them.
They develop healthy self-esteem, end up emotionally happier and even less anxious as adults.
Show your child you believe in them by using words of encouragement every day. Kids will feel supported, loved, empowered, confident, and resilient.
So to help you fill that bucket, we’ve listed below 101 positive things to say to kids.
Did you get your free printable above? Awesome! If you missed the link, it’s right here.
So let’s get right to it, let’s shower our kids with love, use positive phrases, increase family communication, and empower our kids with a bucket of support and love!
101 (yes, you read that right, 101) positive things to say to kids
101 Encouraging Words for Kids
Encouraging Words for Kids: Empowering Kids With Love
1. You are loved
2. You make me smile
3. I think about you ALL the time
4. Your choices matter
5. I believe in you
6. You mean the world to me
7. You are gifted!
8. You are unique!
9. Your laugh is one of the best things about you
10. You can be a great leader
11. You are SO intelligent
12. Wow, what a thoughtful kid you are
13. I love spending time with you
14. You can tell me anything
15. I will love you no matter what
16. I am so proud of you
17. I am proud of the person you are becoming
18. You are kind
19. You are special
20. Tell me about what you are doing
21. My world is better with you in it
22. It’s fun to do things with you
23. I’m glad you’re here
24. You are beautiful!
25. Your honesty makes me so proud
26. I know you will do GREAT things
27. Follow your heart
28. I’m grateful for you
29. I will always be here
30. The world needs you
31. I love you!
32. I need you!
33. You are amazing!
Positive Things to Say to Kids to Encourage Effort (And Before Tests)
34. Just keep going and keep trying
35. Not giving up is one of your best traits
36. Participation and effort are more important than winning
37. Don’t give up, and start what you finish
38. The view from the top is spectacular
39. You can ask for help
40. If you believe it, you can achieve it
41. Your mistakes are chances to learn
42. Reach for the stars
43. You are unstoppable
44. Challenges make you stronger
45. Make an effort, NOT an excuse
46. Follow your dreams
47. Take a break and come back to it
48. I love seeing you work together
49. You can always try again
50. You don’t always need to win
51. Think before you act
Positive Phrases for Kids Battling Anxiety
52. This feeling will pass
53. It’s okay to feel scared, it’s okay to feel sad, and it’s okay to feel angry too
54. Everyone worries sometimes
55. Everyone feels upset sometimes
56. Trust your instincts
57. Nobody is perfect, and that is ok
58. You are MORE than your emotions
59. What you are feeling is normal
60. Work towards solving problems
61. Don’t think too much
62. Go play!
63. Have fun!
64. Don’t be afraid
65. In time, you will feel better
66. Enjoy the moment!
67. Don’t worry, be happy
68. Let your mind settle, like the sand in the ocean
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Words of Encouragement for Kids Going Through Difficult Times
69. You will get through this
70. You have a kind heart, so always be kind, no matter what.
71. Not all days are bad
72. Stay positive, keep dreaming
73. Life is like a box of chocolates; you never know what you’re going to get
74. Nothing call dull your shine: you are beautiful inside and out.
75. Get back up!
76. You are strong
77. Pause, breathe, everything will be okay.
78. I believe in you.
79. This is not the end, but the beginning
80. You got this!
81. You can’t always make everyone happy
82. You will feel better after you get some rest
83. Tell me something that made you smile today
84. The sun will come out tomorrow
85. Always help those who need it
86. Be honest, even if you mess up!
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Positive Things to Say to Kids to Build Self Esteem and Confidence
87. I see you working really hard
88. Thanks for being a great helper
90. You are one smart cookie
91. There is only one you, so be yourself
92. You can say no!
93. You are learning
94. You are growing
95. I’m proud of you
96. I believe you, I believe in you
97. Your ideas matter
98. I am curious, what do you think?
99. Let’s try it your way.
100. You are a good boy/girl
101. You don’t always need to follow the crowd
…I just can’t stop, here a bonus 102…
Treat others the way you want to be treated
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The benefit of using encouraging words for kids
Just think, instead of barking, “Come help empty the dishwater— now!” you could say, “You are a super helpful person, thank you for helping me empty the dishwasher!”
See the shift in tone?
You can sprinkle these positive things to say to kids in many ways throughout your day.
Research proves that the kind of praise we give our children motivates, empowers, and influences them later in life.
Benefits of Encouraging Words for Kids:
- It helps kids develop a positive mindset
- Builds a safe and supportive home life
- Boosts self-esteem
- Helps kids believe in themselves
- Develops imagination and fosters creativity
- Motivates kids to try harder (have you thought about creating a chore chart for kids?)
- Improves kids belief in themselves
- Effects perseverance, self-confidence, and determination
Tips on using positive phrases for kids
Don’t just say, “great job, pal” instead try saying, “the way you shared that toy with Tommy was very kind.”
Being too general does nothing to help a child identify how their efforts led to doing a good job.
Don’t focus on ability but rather the effort
When we say positive things to kids that focus on the effort, we teach kids a growth mindset.
They can then piece together how their effort is compounded to their success, and if they didn’t succeed, how they can improve without feeling like a failure.
And lastly, don’t give too much praise
Giving kids undeserved praise can also result in negative effects down the road.
Don’t give undeserved flattery, which is counterproductive. Research shows that overpraising decreases motivation and can result in the development of narcissistic kids.
Quick tips for using positive phrases with kids
Experts agree when saying positive words to your child do the following:
- Say their name, this gets their attention
- Don’t speak over the child
- Use eye contact
- Get down on their level
- Be sincere and be honest
Bonus points if you say encouraging words for kids in the following situations:
- Pick one phrase to say at bedtime each night. (And get even more bonus points if you combine if with one of these 15 mindfulness activities).
- If you’ve had a moment of disagreement, deliver an encouraging word out of the blue.
- Use lunch box notes to connect with your kiddo through the day (when you aren’t there). (Lunch box notes are one of my favorite discoveries).
- Play mindfulness games.
- Get down on your kid’s eye level and tell them point-blank something special about you love about them.
FREE LUNCH BOX NOTES
Little notes of love for your child’s lunchbox! Make your loved ones smile by sharing one of these inspirational lunch box notes each day. This printable set includes over 100 notes! Where should we send your free lunch box notes? You’ll get the link to download instantly.
Try to sprinkle these positive things to say to your child into everyday conversation. Positive phrases can and will have powerful effects on your kids.
Words have the power to lift your kiddo up, up high into the sky so that they can dream big and accomplish ANYTHING!
Words matter, so which words you will use today?
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